Clinical Supervision

I offer clinical supervision for associate therapists and counselors working toward licensure in Washington State, as well as fully licensed clinicians across the U.S. seeking continued support. Sessions are available both in-person and via Telehealth, for individuals and groups.

My approach is grounded in a bottom-up, mindfulness-based somatic framework. I integrate psychoeducation about the nervous system, trauma theory, attachment, depth psychology, and the neuroscience of change. Drawing from the Jungian concept of the collective unconscious, I also hold space for how both personal and cultural histories shape our inner worlds. Each person’s background—including sociocultural context—deeply informs how unconscious material shows up and affects present experience, both in clients and in ourselves as therapists.

Together, we’ll explore the therapeutic relationship through experiential learning, somatic awareness, and practical support for your caseload. Supervision will be a space to attune to your own internal system, gently unblend from parts that contribute to countertransference or overwhelm, and reconnect with the wisdom of the body. This allows us to go beyond cognitive processing and into more embodied, integrated clinical work.

I offer guidance in applying InternalFamilySystems (IFS), somatictherapy, Gestalt, Hakomi, ExpressiveArts, and EMDR. I also provide specialized support for clinicians working with clients around psychedelicintegration, informed by current research in this emerging area.

Alongside skill-building, we’ll attend to the emotional labor of this work. Burnout, compassion fatigue, and vicarious trauma are common in this field—and supervision can be a place to recognize early signs of depletion. Using both somatic and IFS perspectives, I help supervisees tune into their nervous systems, set boundaries with care, and build practices that sustain both their work and their well-being.

My hope is that through supervision, you’ll develop a style that not only supports your clients, but also supports and nourishes you.

Dear honey: 

We are truly going through the eye of the needle in our relationship and our wounds right now and thank you thank you thank you for staying with me thus far. Us still being here and being together is a miracle and a choice and I’m grateful that you have weathered all our conflict and pain and have still chosen to be with me. That being said, if we are to stay together, which is what I want to do: obviously our relationship needs to change and bloom into new dimensions and directions. Neither of us want to return to the toxic cesspool we were previous creating. In this letter, I want to own what I’ve done and want to address how I can respond in new ways in the future. 

I can see there are times in the past, during Mike’s wedding for instance, instead of staying emotionally present with you I withdrew. I left you alone with your emotions and pain, which of course, multipled the hurt exponentially. I didn’t just do this at the wedding and this has come up in other circumstances, where I left you with your own pain and no support. I understand that my actions left you feeling abandoned and on your own and not supported from the person you count on most. I also understand that when I don’t receive your feelings how they are, then I’m not really receiving the truth of your experience. Your feelings don’t need to be changed, they are pure how they are. They don’t need to fit perfectly into what I want to hear or what I wished you felt. They are your emotions and as your husband, I intent to field and support you however you need it, which will mean listening to you with curiosity and openness and kindness, not abandoning you when the intensity rises, and escalating you further by pushing you in a direction. It’s also pivotal to give you space when you ask for it. 

I can do this by being aware of my own system and slowing down. When i feel myself getting heightened or activated that is the signal. Regulate myself.  I know so many many times I have responded with language that only inflames things more, like “you’re doing this again” or “why are you doing that?” or “you feel X”. None of these responses express true interest or curiosity in what is actually happening for you. They label what you are doing instead of meeting you where you are. It also places the blame on you and what’s happening in your experience rather than on what’s happening within me, which is often hurt, me taking it personally, or wishing you would have a different reaction. It’s vital for me to speak from my experience and not from whatever I think your take might be. 

If I want to know what you’re feeling, I can ask and I can listen. If I’m speaking from my experience I can use NVC. When we separated on the dog walk Tuesday morning I reflected on how I spoke to you. I felt  left in the dust and hurt that I was going to have to catch up to you and chase you again but instead of speaking from my own feelings and hurt, instead I turned it on you “Why won’t you slow down?” And then started to speak about your experience which just poured gasoline on the fire. I could have just let you know how it was effecting me and spoken from my interior in a more truthful way, something I can actually KNOW because it’s in me. “When we’re walking so far apart, I notice I feel disconnected and panic a bit. Could we walk together?” 

This would be a big shift in the direction of me not escalating things when we are in conflict. I’m going to re-read the NVC book and start using NVC with you and see what that opens up in us. I know the actions that I need to do aren’t instantaneous ultra massive changes but gradual repetitive moves that once in normal practice can become well worn grooves in the future. I don’t expect to change overnight, but I want to practice the skills because I think they will help me stay with you instead of becoming reactive and freaking out and amplifying the suffering. 

The truth of it is I want to see you happy, but there’s not just a remote control to set you to happy mode and I wouldn’t want some cheat code that could do that anyway. I have to be willing to enter your experience without having to change it. I hope that will make you feel seen and heard and attuned to. And I know that’s what leads to happiness and fulfillment. And I need to speak from my own experience and feelings rather than say what you are doing (which is bound to be wrong). I can ask. I can be curious. Being demanding and domineering won’t work for you (and I know that’s true cuz it wouldn’t work for me either!).

Obviously I’m going to mess this up sometimes. And as soon as I can realize that I’m hurting you or have spoken for your experience or not made space for your emotions I want to remedy that with an open and sincere apology. No buts. No ands. Just I can see how I just bulldozed your experience or didn’t receive you there or told you what you’re doing and I’m sorry. 

But your feelings are real and they don’t need any sort of decoding or interpretation on my part. I want to lead with curiosity rather than defense and reactionary moves. I want to know what you’re feeling and how you came to that.  I know that I’ll miss your feelings sometimes, but I want to recognize me missing you more quickly so that I can return to you and say that I’m sorry and open up to the truth you have to share. 

None of this means that I haven’t had my own hurts, fears, and dense moments of disconnection in this marriage. I have and you spoke to much of it in your letter. But I don’t want all that hurt and conflict to eclipse how I’ve contributed to your pain and the dissonance between us. I have caused you hurt and agony. I have blown up situations with defensiveness, reactivity, and aggressiveness in how I spoke from my emotions. I lost sight of you in those moments. I am part of this. My hope is that if I can take responsibility for how I show up in our dynamic that it can create more space for us to listen to each other and to embrace each other’s experiences instead of competing, fighting, shutting down and re-activating past cycles. It has to change now for both of us. 

And for me to able to repair well I need enough willingness to take in the experience that we’re having now and not expand to other events in the  past. I’d also like to reach a conclusion or a wrap up moment (not that everything has to be completely resolved) before something else eclipses us. When those things happen I get thrown off, I lose my footing and have trouble staying connected. It doesn’t feel like we can resolve the present if the past keeps clogging our progress and if we keep things open without coming to some mutual understanding it just feels like the hurt lingers in a unresolved, frayed end kind of state that really escalates my nervous system. I am hoping this letter can address the past wounds so we can move forward. I’m also happy to address those wounds in totality so we can move forward with clarity and forgiveness. 

I’m also sorry for the ohmming and how my struggles with our intimacy made it seem like you were the problem. The intimacy issue has been the most painful issue for me and I’m sorry that I reacted from my hurt emotional place so frequently. Speaking from my experience 

You are the honey of my life. I want to see you my love. Always. 

OHMMING 

DEFNESIVESNESS